Drug abusers are out of control. Drug abusers need help to get to detox and rehab. So why do family members wait for their loved ones to take themselves to rehab?
Often family members say, "He doesn't want help", or "She has to want it first".
But how do drug abusers or alcoholics get to wanting help? The first basic steps to getting them to accepting help are unknown or not taken by family members of drug abusers. Here are those missing steps to recovery.
Drug & alcohol abusers make issues about needing help and going to rehab. Getting an addicted loved one to accept help for problems with drugs is possible, if you know the steps to take. Working through conflicts with help speeds getting someone to recovery.
What is help?
Help is assistance, benefit, cooperation, aid, nurture, etc. Good help requires good control.
A person with ongoing drug or alcohol abuse issues has failed to help themselves. These losses can add up. Now they may believe help is not even possible. Failure = failed help.
First Five Steps To Drug & Alcohol Rehab That Works
First: are you offering Band-Aids instead of Intensive Care? If so, the seriousness of drug abuse and underlying actual problem has not been confronted and failure was inevitable.
Some people have even been instructed not to call a rehab center for a loved one suffering with an addiction. They somehow expect a miracle. Here's the truth: miracles occur in rehab and detox centers. Waiting for a miracle before rehab is waisting opportunities.
Intelligent planning and action will get you that miracle faster than idle hope.
Successful rehab centers' staff works with individuals to locate underlying and unhandled problems in living. Finding and handling actual problems is worth a great deal. When that is done, real help gets delivered and the cause of addiction ends. Confronting and being encouraged to deal with drug and alcohol abuse and real life requires extra help from others, new skills and abilities.
Second: Sometimes, the family needs to be brought on board, so that everyone is on the same playing field, helping the addict to recovery. By the way, enabling drug addicts by paying their debts and rent isn't help. Listening and learning more about intervention (bottom link) will move you forward in your understanding of addiction and intervention.
Third: Sometimes one has to start at the most basic level of understanding before getting the person to consider they have a problem and give a commitment to rehab. The easiest way to breach drug abuse with another is to suggest they really cut back or quit alcohol or drug use or read our web page or ask how much money they are spending on drugs & alcohol per week.
Do you see that your actions are being required here? These are action you take. Nowhere do I say, 'wait for the addict to ask for treatment or help'.
Forth: If they are willing to accept help today they will require assistance in getting to an effective drug detox and rehab program. You'll probably have to take them to rehab and help with admittance. Many of the detox and rehab centers I know of cost money and addicts and money aren't usually together for very long.
Fifth: If you've been struggling with an addict's denials, realize that you've been misapplying your intervention attempts. You are probably trying to do the job of a trained professional interventionist, and you haven't been getting the results required.
You Can Learn To Help Save An Addicted Loved One
Trained professional interventionists can successfully getting a person accepting help. But, if hiring a professional is not financially possible you will need to learn everything you can about intervention. We've solved that problem for you. I've worked with many interventionists and the process of getting someone to rehab is something YOU can lean.
So, help addicts get to recovery by assisting them to take their next steps. Insist they follow through with those efforts by finding detox and rehab programs that deliver up on what they promise. That means the rehab program produces results -- drug-free productive people who contribute to their families and society.
The first 5 steps to rehab require your assistance, then miracles can occur.